The Collapse of Masculinity Is Fueling the Madness in Our Culture

By Brandon Tatum

Over the weekend, I attended a powerful conference that exposed some of the darkest, most disturbing realities unfolding in our schools and in women’s sports. Stories of abuse, manipulation, and what I can only describe as mental rape were laid bare. But amid all of it—the locker room violations, the political cowardice, the attack on womanhood—one thought hit me harder than anything else:

Where are the men?

Why are so many men silent while girls are being stripped of fairness, dignity, and safety? Why is it that when Riley Gaines speaks out about biological male Lia Thomas walking around the women’s locker room fully exposed—while attracted to women, no less—we don’t see an army of fathers storming school board meetings and confronting coaches and athletic directors?

Where is the righteous rage? Where is the leadership?

This is not just about ideology or policy. This is about failure—male failure. And as much as it pains me to say it, I blame men for nearly every societal ill we’re facing today.

Let’s start at the beginning.

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Adam Was the Blueprint—and He Failed

In the Garden of Eden, God created Adam first. He gave Adam the charge, the command, the divine instruction. Eve was deceived, yes—but the moment of consequence didn’t come until Adam disobeyed. Why? Because God held the man responsible.

Fast forward to today, and the pattern hasn’t changed. When women fall into destructive behavior, when children are confused, broken, and lost—it’s almost always the case that a man somewhere failed in his role.

Whether it’s a passive father, an absent one, or an abusive one, the trail of destruction almost always leads back to a man who didn’t show up.

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Men Are the Root of the Problem

Let’s be real:

• When a woman sells her body on OnlyFans, men are consuming the content and fueling the demand.

• When girls are abused, confused, and misled into radical ideologies, men are often the ones who fail to protect, guide, or affirm them.

• When biological men dominate women’s sports, it’s male coaches and male athletic directors who stay silent or cheer it on.

And when feminism exploded into a movement that now denies biology and undermines men at every turn—guess what? That wasn’t born out of strength. It was a reaction to male weakness.

This isn’t just about transgenderism. It’s about men losing their place in the world—and more importantly, abandoning their God-given calling.

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Where Are the Men on Abortion?

Let me take this further: Abortion is a men’s issue, too.
And yet—crickets.

For decades, men have allowed women to dominate the narrative through radical feminism, framing abortion as a “women’s rights” issue. In contrast, men stand on the sidelines, afraid to speak, too broken or complicit to act.

But the truth is, these babies being sacrificed—intentionally or even unintentionally—are our children too. These aren’t just "her choices"; they are our legacies. And far too many men are either silent or cheer it on behind closed doors because they’re scared of responsibility or addicted to sexual access without consequence.

Where are the pastors preaching about it?
Where are the fathers training their sons in discipline and abstinence?
Where are the dads teaching their daughters their worth, so they don’t seek validation in the arms of the wrong men?

We’ve created a culture where sex is celebrated, consequences are ignored, and children are disposable—and men are largely to blame for checking out.

You want to end abortion? Raise stronger men.

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Inner-City Violence and Effeminate Sons

Let’s talk about what’s happening in our cities.

Every weekend, bodies drop in Chicago, St. Louis, Baltimore, and other urban war zones. And who’s pulling the trigger? Young men. Boys with no fathers. Boys are raised without guidance, correction, or identity. They aren’t being mentored. They’re being abandoned—and the streets are raising them with guns, gangs, and chaos.

This is not a race issue. This is a fatherhood issue.

When young men aren’t taught strength through discipline, they learn to dominate through violence. They grow up angry, lost, and directionless—so they shoot first because no one ever taught them how to lead, how to endure, or how to walk away.

At the same time, we’re watching another crisis unfold—effeminacy in our boys.

The culture is feminizing young men at every turn. Schools, media, and even some churches are conditioning boys to be passive, emotional, and fragile. Masculinity is mocked. Toughness is called “toxic.” Assertiveness is labeled “aggression.” So what happens? Boys grow up confused about who they are and what they’re for. They retreat into softness, apathy, or addiction. And before long, they don’t resemble men at all.

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We Are Living in the Fallout of Fatherlessness

Ask any troubled teen, any broken adult, any person confused about their identity, their worth, or their role in the world: “What was your relationship like with your father?”

The answers are almost always the same:

• “He wasn’t there.”

• “He was abusive.”

• “He didn’t care.”

This is the generational curse we’re watching unfold in real time.

Men are not leading. And when men don’t lead, evil fills the vacuum.

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The Opportunity of Our Generation

But I’m not writing this just to rebuke. I’m writing this to call men higher.

We have a tremendous opportunity right now to rise—to become the protectors, providers, and pillars of truth our culture so desperately needs. To push back on insanity in schools. To stand up for our daughters in sports. To confront lies with truth and weakness with strength.
To defend the unborn.
To pull our sons out of the streets.
To teach them how to be men, not just males, but men of God.

It starts with personal responsibility. It starts in your home, your church, your circle of influence. And it starts with courage—the kind that doesn’t care about being “liked,” only about being righteous.

The question is: Will we step up? Or will we stay silent as the world crumbles around us?

The choice is ours. But the time is now.

— Brandon Tatum